Nama:Ask me! a0z0ra[at]gmail.com Suku: Tiong Hoa Agama: Kristen Katolik Ras: Mongol Adat-Istiadat: ikut orang tua Hobi: denger musik, baca macem2, nulis macem2, nongkrong
bareng temen, mendalami iman Kristiani. Harusnya: pulang Indo, nulis macem2, kerja wartawan budaya,
bina keluarga sejahtera, ikutan nongkrong bareng Romo Sandyawan
dkk, ikut2 politik buat angkat derajat orang Tiong Hoa dalam hukum. Ternyata: terdampar di San Diego CA USA, hedon dan hedon dan
hedon... Jadinya: merenungi hidup segan mati tak hendak dengan nulis2
Hypocrisy (or being a hypocrite) is the act of pretending to oppose a belief or behaviour while holding the same beliefs or behaviours at the same time. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypocrisy
Careful there. Hypocrisy is such a strong word people would be taken a step back when you cry it out.
Why? Because we can't know for sure what belief a person holding inside. Their actions may say otherwise, but actions can be different depending on circumstances.
Sometimes what I thought is a hypocrisy is only a desire not to start a fight. Desire to keep peace and show your best foot forward. They may say things they don't mean just to please you, but you should appreciate it because they still want to keep relationships with you. That's love right there. I, for one, can be a hard person to love.
After all, being non-judgmental is so easy a caveman can do it.
To fight or not to fight.. or what is there to fight about?
Once you're bitten by a particular dog you'll make sure it won't happened again. You'll avoid the dog. Or any animals that resembles the damn dog.
Same with people. Once you're hurt by a particular person, you'll avoid at any cost to interact with him/her again. Or anyone that resembles that nasty person.
If you just avoid problems at any cost, you'll risk getting screwed over and over again. People will treat you like a doormat. Yet, people will love you because you resembles a pet, you can't do harm to them. You will be popular and your name will be associated with friendliness.
There are moments where personalities clash. When they do, egos collide, resulted in scars for both sides. Both people lose.
Only grace from Heaven will heal these scars and let you two have great relationship again. Normally they won't go away until death do they part. Forgiveness is an ideal in which very few saints understand. Normal people don't understand, or just too lazy wanting to understand. They usually just follow whatever gut feelings they have at the moment. If it's hatred, then hatred it is.
The one who choose not to fight back may appear lose at the moment, but in the end they actually win. Because that other guy/girl with the big ego will still keep a relationship with the smaller ego. That may be a Christian goal. Avoid to fight back and swallows your pride. Pray for that other person. Give it to God. How enchanting.
However,which one of these two options are better for your health? That is, of course, if living a long life is your goal.
Yes, I always know that I must have missed something. All my life I've been a good girl, with a couple of very minor misdemeanors here and there.
I've always been surrounded by good people (lucky me!). I did my homeworks, I laughed at the clean humor and rarely cursed. Guess what, I am also surrounded by people who did their homeworks, laughed at clean humors and rarely cursed.
It hasn't changed.
What has changed is that I now understand that there are other world out there that I just don't get it. That world where people are more carefree, they love & fight fiercely, they don't care about God & the afterlife, and they cursed. A lot!
I always want to check out that world, and see what I can find. I saw enough hypocrisy going on with my world, which sometimes I took part. I engaged in a lot of superficial relationships as well. What's out there then? What can be worse?
I'm not smart enough to live in this world by myself, I did so many stupid things, and to the amusement of people who know me, I will continue doing stupid & superficial things. I need something real. What's out there? Is it real? What is real?
I did my homeworks in life. I got good grades. Yet somehow I feel like I must have missed something.