I used to write that deep friendship among a man & a woman can exist if both parties agree not to proceed further.
Here I am, 3 years older, and I have changed my mind.
There is no honest deep friendship between a man & a woman, especially if they are still single.
By nature, woman almost always try instinctively to "capture" husbands, and man will always view woman as possible mate for making children (aka sex). There are always hidden intentions whether the woman/man realize it or not. One shouldn't be careless or naive enough to really believe that it is possible.Bah! I don't believe this crap.
You may say. After all, you can't really see my heart so you shouldn't judge me in such matter.
True, I shouldn't judge you. However, I do believe that I am entitled to see it as an observer and propose my understanding of it. This is what I believe, and from my eyes I would interpret it as such; those with deep/longterm friendships with opposite sex will view the friend as:
- backup (for marriage/sex),
- source of approval (checking own's value in the market),
- source of attentions & affections from opposite sex
For those who are interested further, you can read part III Chapter 18 of Introduction to the Devout Life
by St. Francis de Sales.
Labels: friendship, virtues
a0z0ra @ 9:59 PM  |