Call it the charisma, the aura, the presence. It seems like people can notice those with powers instantly. The eyes, you may say, truly reveal all. According to Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
, it is the closest bridge to mind.
No matter how you call it, people will do snap judgements within milliseconds with their eyes. Whether the judgement is close to reality is another story.
Those with the most expressive face tend to dominate the group. These people are very skillful in reading people. They usually know what people want and how to make them happy. Their judgements usually very close to reality. They may know what makes that person ticks within couple of minutes. In conversation, they not only hear the voice, they also listen to the body language & what their hearts tell them. Once you get all the information, you'll know how to create happiness for this particular person. Repeat the process several times with different people, and in the end you'll gain high points in social ranks.
Those who are shy, quiet & less expressive, they are usually clueless. They tend to have bigger error margins in reading people. They don't know how to act in a social situation, they will say the wrong things at the wrong time, offend people repeatedly & thus lose points in social ranks. Only with God's grace can this people still have healthy social life.
However, I believe the art of reading people is a skill that can be learned. If one is honest and know s/he needs help, s/he can be an expert within time. This can be achieved only through trial & error. Even though one can learn from a mentor, like swimming, it is through trial and error s/he can truly master the skill.
Within time s/he is going to graduate from this school of art & find his/her own unique way of connecting with people. Until then, just be merry & happy.
The prerequisite is that one has to be honest. Those who are arrogant don't think that they aren't skillful. They will be left behind in their own little world. And they will get angry for not receiving the love they think they deserved, and start to believe that the world is against them. To this manner, I'd say, only God's grace can open their eyes.
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