You've been there. You've meet them. These people have the attitude of God-wannabes. They hold their heads up high, speak in arrogant low-pitch tone, smirk when witnessing a mistake, somebody else's for sure.
Their whole body language makes you want to slap them silly, "Wake up, you self-delusional (*^%(.. You're no better than us!"
However, in reality perhaps they are truly better than us. They may have been blessed so much that you'd think they have every right to be proud (in world's term, nonetheless). It's just that arrogant, heaven-almighty attitude that is so hard to accept. Ugh.
Why are they behaving like that?
What makes them think they are better than us?
I remember one of our friend, JJ, spoke about pride in one of the prayer meeting session. He quoted heavily from CS Lewis "Mere Christianity". All in all, what I remember from the session is such:
"If you think you don't have pride, you are very arrogant."
"If you think you are arrogant, then you are safe."
??? Such a puzzling statement, don't you think?
So, following the above rule, let's apply that to myself.
I don't think I have pride = I'm helplessly arrogant.
Lord have mercy.
Then again, that is probably true. Most arrogant people may not even know that they are arrogant
. They have subconcious thoughts that always running in their mind whenever they interact with other human, such as:
- I am a lot better than this person.
- They are just jealous. Can't help it.
- So what? I'd like to be positive & self-confident thank you very much.
In retrospect, people feel offended when they interact with the arrogants. They don't like:
- being judged as less worthy
- being minisculed before knowing each other's traits
- being passed over without their permission
I think arrogancy is universally bad because it eliminates any trust & teamwork that is needed in everyday life. Arrogancy elevates unhealthy competition to a new level. By being arrogant, you dismissed people as being unworthy of your time. By being arrogant, you consider people to be objects that you can easily use. I don't like being used, I believe you don't either.
Thus, in western world, humility is a trait to be praised. It is hard to be humble when everyone wants to be better than each other. It is hard to be humble when you know you have talents that others don't. It is tremendously hard for leaders to be humble and gain respect from their followers at the same time. Thus those who are skilled in humility are always high in demand. They are very likeable.
How to deal with arrogant people?
Sometimes, the so-called-arrogant people behave that way because inside they don't have much self-confidence. That is why they tend to bring down people before they have to prove their supremacy. Those who are easily swayed will believe that they are indeed lower than the arrogants. We must be strong in faith that God creates all souls equally in value. However, God gives graces accordingly to each unique design.
If we are strong enough, their arrogancy should have little effects on us.
Also, following the above rule we should be conscious that we are not entirely free from pride. After all, Adam & Eve ate the forbidden fruits because they wanted to be like God. To keep ourselves from being arrogant, daily prayers & meditations should be useful. Along with many weak spots, pride is on top of my list (Yea right, as if I have many things to be proud of..)
So, in conclusion:
- We need to be patient & kind to people we considered as arrogant. Our judgement may differ from God's. If you care about them, consider praying for their good.
- Meantime, we need to realize that there is pride inside all of us. Pray to receive strength to overcome this heavy temptation and grant us graces to be humble.
a0z0ra @ 5:19 PM  |