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    Wednesday, January 11, 2006

    Asian Dating Style 

    Are you an Asian? Are you a Christian? Have you read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" because your Spiritual Leader told you so? Are you scared of "dating" because you aren't sure whether you glorify Him?

    Fear not my friends.. for the Westerner style of dating hasn't really affected most of us. We date (or court or whateva you want to call it) mostly for the purpose of "Getting to know each other better" & "See if we're compatible for marriage."

    Most of the Christian Leaders' concern is that dating has become some form of entertainment, where relationships between two opposite-sex don't lead to marriage. Thus they continually warn us, peek on our lives, trying to rebuke us over & over again, screaming "Don’t Date!" What happened next? We, the clueless Asians who embraced Christianity, fear of relationships because our Westerner brothers told us so. After all, they know more about our religion than us isn't it?

    The truth is.. They don’t have a clue on type of relationship we currently believed in. They haven't live & know enough of our culture. They thought we're embracing the same type of dating like we eat McDonalds and dance to Hip-Hop.

    You see, I don’t see much similarity between Westerner & Asian dating style among Indonesians. Most single people who are currently involved in a relationship suggested that they are looking for long terms. Most couples will not confess to the fact that they are thinking about marriage. Most will say that they just want to have fun, but in the end they will keep on seeing each other for 2-5 years and proceed to marriage. The statistics of married Asians showed that they only have less than 5 partners before tying the knots. So our dating style is actually what they called "Courtship." Their dating style is the one depicted in "Sex & the City." Most of our Asian Dramas stories revolved around one and only true love, not around some singles in their 30s & housewives and their ever-changing partners.

    Yea, I know a couple of my friends that regularly switch partners (> 8!!) like hot-selling-cakes. But deep inside I believe that most of us are "Conservatives" - borrowing their political terms. Divorce rates are still low in Asia, though some stupid celebrities start to ride the Liz Taylor trend. PDA (Public Displays of Affection) still cause controversies. Playboys & Playgirls are seen as deviants, not as heroes. So relax, take your time, enjoy the ride. We're not as screwed up (in Christian term) as our Westerner brothers. Meanwhile, my beloved Westerner Christian Ministers.. may God always be with your war against "Sex & the City" dating style & 50% divorce rate. Our prayers will always be with you.


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