Some new research at Northeastern University showed that people who think well of themselves regardless of how others feel about them tend to be perceived by others as condescending and hostile. Given this new information, a different approach to creating self-esteem seems in order:
Giving honest and accurate feedback to our children, our spouses, and our employees. It's relatively easy to compliment and praise people. It makes them feel good, and it makes us feel good to make them feel good. It's more difficult to find something you genuinely appreciate and to say it without the slightest bit of puffery, but it just might do more good.
We can also help people do better. Of course! If someone is getting along well with her peers and she's succeeding at something - trumpet, hobby, schoolwork, job, athletics - it will improve her self-esteem. So find a way to help her accomplish something.
This Is A War - HEALTH
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